So many things have been written about game. But to shake things a little bit up, I am not going to talk about game itself, rather than referring how I have used it my entire life. I mean, 15 years ago – when I started kissing the first girls when going out at night – I had absolutely no idea what game was. Neither 10 years ago, when I started taking women over 30 to bed. Or not even 8 years ago, when I did Erasmus in Prague, Czech Republic, being by far the guy who had more “interactions” with the opposite sex (yes, we used to have a counter for all the single guys in the campus).
Regardless of which era I pick when I look back into my life, the fact is that I have always been successful with women. Not that I only picked up hot girls (far from that: on the first years of my sexual activity, for every attractive girl I banged, there were three who I can say only their dogs would dare to look straight in their faces), but I do not remember going through “drought” for a long period of time.
Contrary to most of pick-up gurus` stories of life – who tell you how they had been lousy with women, until they discovered game which completely changed their life, since they could from then on engage in conversations with many females and bed some of them – I consider myself a natural. Believe me that I am not saying it with vanity or pretension, but just because the facts support it.
In addition, I have also been subversive, against the system, my entire life. Not in the way of “there are no rules, fuck everybody” but in the sense of questioning and going against the established. Somehow, even long before having discovered game or the raw truth, my mind was already telling me that something was not right. That the system, the news, and the information you get since you are a young child is somehow distorted, corrupted or even false. As my sister always says, “you are not nice, you do not care, you are bitter!”
Until recently ago, I used to be upset with these accusations. Right now, it just puts a big smile on my face, when I truly realize that my inborn being has always been stronger than that “acquired” part of me who obliges me to be educated, nice and cordial.
(Thank you mother for having created me with great educational standards, but giving me the freedom of thinking which has always allowed me to see beyond the curtain).
So but learning game has not changed anything in your life?
Well, I have always been a player but that does not mean that I have not done my mistakes.
For instance, when I had a serious relationship and I trusted this girl and her devotion for 100% (ups, but in the end it seemed that there were other guys in between).
Or when I fell for a girl blindly and tended only to pedestalize her (and guess what? She became fat a couple of years later).
Or even when I had a passion for a girl and I got so insistent and honest that I told her about my feelings and how I liked to be with her (of course a couple of months later she returned to the “asshole” who had dumped her months before).
But fortunately, all of this happened until I was 20 years old. It might sound strange, but most of my strongest emotional moments happen ten years ago or on earlier times. Many say that I have become traumatized, cold, bitter or defensive since then. I reply them: I have just become cleverer and more aware.
Whether I have run into game due to life events or due to my innate ability to assess things, it does not really matter. In my personal opinion, game has just explained and smoothed out what I had not understood before. Basically, it has put a theory behind the entire practice I had already been applying.
So I am natural who has acquired game. What then? Well then it came the real deal, the inconvenient truth, the one way ticket: about four years ago I discovered the red pill and from then on everything “clicked”. Not that I have changed or have joined any kind secret cult, rather that my actions, thoughts, desires and convictions started to align themselves.
It is not a matter of just getting girls, but a full reformulation of my inner being. All the false dreams and vain illusions started to fade away and the harsh truth began to timidly show up, until it could no longer leave.
But now I am confused: everyone talks about game and now you are telling me about the red pill truth?
I mean, you should in any case learn game, but keep in mind that it is just the tip of the iceberg. It is like having a beautiful house (game) built on quicksand. To support it, you will have to have this invisible but strong structure placed on rigid ground (red pill).
To sum things up, game is the form and red pill the content; game is fragile and volatile, red pill is more solid than a rock; game is learnable, red pill must be felt; game is for all and is fun, red pill is for the few who are willing to watch their own suffering; game is temporary, red pill is forever.
Fast forward to 2016: here I am, being 30, feeling on the prime of my life and on the climax of my seductive skills. Not only I have shaped to the fullest my physical appearance but also I have deeply understood which attitude I should take in life, especially towards women. Basically, I have reached the optimal point in terms of attracting the opposite sex.
But now you ask yourself: “for a guy who is a natural, who has been through different situations, who has learned game (or learned a name for what he had already been doing for a long time) and has taken the red pill, what are the techniques or tricks you use to get women? It is great that you have always been a player, that you are a natural and so on but honestly, this is something which I do not really care”.
Since this is not an article about game itself but more about a “career” of a player, I am not going to be here talking about techniques*. In any case, if there were only one tip I could give you right now, it would be exactly that: Do not care, do not give a fuck.
Until not long ago, I used to care. I used to think “oh she is not answering my message, what is going on?” or “what if in the end it does not work with this girl? I would then be losing my time”. Perhaps because I have already been through all kinds of situations – with their inherent disappointments and frustrations – or just because the red pill has made me skeptical, nowadays I do not really care whether I will lose (or get) a girl or not.
And guess what? Since their primitive limbic system is totally wired to this I-do-not-care-attitude, which simply “drives them crazy”, I and guys who own it have in the end a competitive advantage over the others. But guess also what? It not just wanting it, you have to acquire it by experience. If there is one thing which the age of 30 has given me was to reach a point in which I have an almost full control of my body and emotions, being now able to command much better my sexual life (nothing to do with the fact that I can get every women, far from that), something which would be impossible ten or even five years ago.
Nevertheless, to become a good player, you have to be always playing the game so you first need to start somewhere and then follow the path in front of you. It will not be easy, it will not be comfortable and it will not be pleasant at all.
Still, if you are brave and resilient enough and you have this inherent sexual drive towards women – actually you do not need to be a natural, that is something which just helps, like being very tall when playing volleyball – you will go through a full growing process, a wonderful journey which only the ones who want more than what it is given to them will be able to take.
But trust me, the reward is worthwhile: in the end of the road lies a world according to your own terms, in which you will say out loud Do not hate the player, hate the game.
*if you want a detailed, bullshit free guide in how to be successful with women, take a look at my new book No More Bullshit about Getting Laid, on the section “Books”.